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They Gave Us Six Months

4/19/2012

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I was a liberal feminist. He was Mr. “God’s Plan for the Family”. I was a Democrat, he was a Republican. I had lived on my own for the previous ten years. He was still living at home at age 27.

I was also a not-Italian, not-Catholic, hard-nosed Wall Street bitch who my future mother-in-law was certain would break her Italian Prince’s heart. I was one of “those” Christians, from that Bible thumping “protestante” church he had been attending. Surely I wasn’t the right girl for him.
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We had nothing in common. I had a subscription at the Metropolitan Opera. He had made up a number of songs mocking opera. I had deliberately moved from the Atlanta suburbs to New York and lived in Manhattan. He was from Jersey City, and he hated New York. He hated Jersey City, too, and devoted his life to trying to get to the suburbs. He hated museums, opera, and ballet. I hated guns, cop shows, and techno-gadget crap.

He had a really sophomoric sense of humor. Too many puns, too much rhyming, too much slapstick. It was Monty Python and Hugh Laurie vs. Leslie Nielsen and the Three Stooges. Jonathan Swift vs. “There was a young man from Nantucket…”

I was headstrong, he was controlling. I was daring, even reckless. He was ridiculously cautious. The irresistible force meets the immovable object.

They gave us six months.

But we knew something they didn’t know. He had gone home after the first time we met and announced that he had met the woman he was going to marry. I had heard from God that “this is the one you prayed for.” OK, so my response was “Lord, you’ve gotta be kidding.” The fact was that the time we spent together confirmed that we DID have in common the only thing that we had to have in common to make it work: Jesus Christ.

Has it been easy? No.

Has it been worth it? Absolutely.

The foundation we built on sustained us through poverty and plenty, "the Cesspool", church difficulties, political strife, the Pets from Hell, health crises, 2 difficult pregnancies and 2 miscarriages, the deaths of all our parents, buying a house with no money, six years caring for my cantankerous aunt with Alzheimer's, homeschooling, internet marketing, family catastrophes, Homeland Security, spiritual crises, and living in New Jersey. We have survived stresses that would have sunk nine out of ten other marriages.

Maybe ten out of ten.

Twenty four six years later, I am more sure than ever that I made the right choice. That I really did hear from the Lord. That my husband is the one and only that I prayed for.

Happy anniversary, honey. I love you more than you'll ever know.

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.” – Matthew 7:24-27
2012 Update: This post still pretty much says everything, and yet now that we are older, we have health challenges and other challenges that are teaching us the real meaning of “For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.”  Today, I can’t believe I have been married 27 years. Not in a “oh-Lord-it’s-been-forever-will-it-never-end” kind of way, but in a “where-did-the-time-go” kind of way.  I can’t imagine life without you, and still love you more than you’ll ever know.
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C. J. link
9/23/2019 07:00:20 pm

That was great! God is good.

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Sam T link
9/23/2019 09:15:32 pm

Sue:

Very powerful testimony.

Sam T.

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Rebecca Friedman, Your Personal Chef link
9/23/2019 09:16:27 pm

What an absolutely beautiful testimony to the power of love! Happy Anniversary to you and your husband, and may you live to celebrate many, many more together.

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Scotty link
9/23/2019 09:18:07 pm

great post... and more common than you can imagine ;)

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Mrs. West link
9/23/2019 09:19:39 pm

That was so inspiring and sweet. It gives me encouragement for my husband and I...with G-d's help we will make it. Thanks for sharing

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Pamela Foreman link
9/23/2019 09:22:26 pm

Happy belated anniversary! My marriage has been considered the same thing, my parents didn't want me marrying the man I did, we've been married almost 13 years and going strong with four kids in tow! Your life sounds like ours in a lot of ways!

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Susan Critelli
9/23/2019 09:23:17 pm

Thanks so much to all who commented! It is so nice to know that there is something in our experience that is an encouragement to others. marriage is hard work, and so many throw in the towel too soon. May God's grace sustain you all in your marriages!

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Debt Help link
9/23/2019 09:24:03 pm

I KNOW you had a lot more in common than we the readers of your story don't know about.

Happy Anniversary!

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Susan Critelli
9/23/2019 09:27:38 pm

No, we really didn't. We loved the Lord, but that was about it. We really did get married because we believed we were hearing from God that we should.

Happy, with every passing day I believe that even more. That we really did hear from God that we should. Of course, now I can't imagine life without him.

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devianty link
9/23/2019 09:28:33 pm

good post nice to visiting you keep writing and sharing

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